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[Itastyendarne]

When your  loved one  is  insisting  a  separation  or is  distant , and you don't want it, there is a  discord . There is  tension . There is  stress . I have  invented  the  method  of applying the push pull  strategy , where one partner   uses the  power, energy  and weight  of the other partner  to their own advantage, and to the disadvantage of their partner .We  will not  achieve good feelings  with our  souse as long as this  feuding is going on, as long as you communicate  to them that you want something different from what they want. When the other  spouse is pulling away from you or wanting a  split or wanting to leave, they are almost  typically  on the opposite side of any fence that they perceive you as being on. So use the push/pull. Go  with them.Now, here are three  ideas and strategies all under the  guise of the jujitsu technique. 1. You need to  remember  to Stop pressuring, stop  complaining, stop  criticizing, just stop it and you will stop your divorce!2. Try agreeing with  all  your spouse says  or does. You see, when one partner  has a closed mind and is  separating from  the other, they are in love with their negative feelings. So they put their negative feelings in charge of the door to their mind.  Therefore  when you try to reason with them, you're  suggesting to  them that their negative feelings are wrong . That causes their negative feelings to lock  the door tighter. You must  attempt to agree with your spouse's  negative feelings - whatever they may be. "I agree, this  union  is hopeless." "Yes I agree, you will never  be able to trust me. That is exactly  correct." You must not  defend yourself. Simply  agree,  act sincere, and  stay  quiet  and you may no longer have to say, please save my marriage.3. Try acting   real happy about everything. Enjoy your  free time . Take advantage of your freedom. Tell your partner  that they are right  - Agree with them, and be happy about whatever it is that they  demand. This uses the push/pull  strategy , which  will work for you. But  ,  do not do this for a short  while and then  revert back over to your  same  pressuring self.  Do not do it, it  will not  work for you. And don't do it early in a  heart to heart and then slip back to explaining yourself about what you  need  and why you did what you did.  Try consistency with this. No pressure  whatsoever. Of course, this does not mean no  contact. If you are separated from your  spouse , you can call and say  hello, practice small  chat and happy talk. Remember, the secret to this is, small talk, happy talk. save your marriage